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Topic:

THE PERCEPTION ON THE INTERNAL DIALECTIC OF EXPRESSION/PRIVACY OF INDIVIDUALS INVOLVED IN FRIENDLY RELATIONSHIPS


OBSERVATION

I want to blab my feelings, my wants, fears, apprehensions and all the people and things that trouble me to my considered true and special friend. Just so he’ll know and understand me. Yet, there is in me that suffers to reveal because of the fright of becoming vulnerable by disclosing personal information to someone who, I don’t think already considers me his true friend.

Everytime I experience the tension of my need to be closed and private (that is when my friend asks something about my “ex-crush/love”) I shut up and keep silent even though we are in the middle of our conversation. I know, that silence is the signal that I really want to be closed and private. after my silence, my friend acts strange. i don't know if he's angry or irritated with me because he might think that, that silence shows that i don't trust him or anything, any reason he can think of. i don't know if he understands that there are really times that i need to put up walls around me.



IMPORTANCE OF THE STUDY

In my study, I would like to know if what my friend thinks of everytime I shut my mouth and keep silent in the middle of our conversation. I would like to know also what other people(those who are involved in friendly relationships) think when their friend or partner does the same thing. Do they understand the Dialectic of Expression/Privacy? Or do they consider it(the silence or any signal that shows that someone doesn't want to talk about a certain thing) as a negative element in their conversation and in their relationship?


this study would focus on the Dialectical Theory of Leslie Baxter and BArbara Montgomery as a primary source to understand the contradicting tensions within relationships. the coordinated management of meaning of W. Pearce BArnett and Vernon Cronen would also be a basis to know how individuals create meanings with nonverbal actions (e.g. silence).



Dialectical Theory is a distinct theory about the dynamics of communication in relationships. Grounded in different assumptions and focused on different relational processes, dialectical theory emphasizes the continuous, inherent tensions that arise from contradictory impulses for autonomy and connection, openness and closedness, and novelty and routine. Viewing dialectics as natural, ongoing, and productive, this theory provides impressive insight into dynamics that are central, continuous, and never fully resolved parts of relational life. Dialectical Theory encourages us to understand and appreciate the contradictions and continuous changes that saturate, complicate and enliven our relationships.

Dialectical theory of Leslie Baxter and Barbara Montgomery

Communication Theories in Action, Julia T. Wood.


the Coordinated management of meaning is concerned with how humans construct meaning for their communication. it emphasizes that we use communication rules to coordinate meanings in interaction with others. it is an interpretive theory that assumes human communication is rule guided and rule following.

Coordinated Management of Meaning of W. Pearce BArnett and Vernon Cronen
Communication Theories in Action, Julia T. Wood